The Reality of Masculinity
Context is an essential component in understanding the nuances of others and serves as a critical tool in humanizing people’s emotions and actions. With it, we can make informed judgments about how to approach a situation best. However, when the context isn’t readily apparent or given to observers or third parties, peering into the lives of others, it becomes relatively easy to judge despite context and dehumanizing. This is especially pertinent in the characterization of BIPOC men, particularly Black men, concerning the existing skepticism surrounding their mental health.
Although it’s important to deconstruct the stigmas against psychotherapy in BIPOC communities, it’s just as critical to understanding the existing cultural contexts that create skepticism for BIPOC men who might be apprehensive about seeking mental health resources.
We know the societal norms that make vulnerability in BIPOC men inherently difficult. These norms are ingrained during adolescence and perpetuate the harmful idea that a man is to be:
Constantly stoic
Self-sufficient
Industrious
Aggressive
Dominating
These conceptions of masculinity are fixed and lack humanity, considering weakness and vulnerability are excluded from the equation. However, can we agree that weakness and vulnerability are innately human and are inevitable parts of the human experience?
As social beings, men must tap into social resources such as counseling, community, and consultations. Therapy in the BIPOC community is often scrutinized because it implicates weakness and disability, which are shunned, especially in men.
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A few weeks ago, Kristian J. Hunt LCSW, LCADC a Psychotherapist and Motivational Coach was invited to our Instagram platform to share his professional take on “The Intersection of Blackness and Masculinity” with our Intake Coordinator Khalil Gallop. He says:
Vulnerability is a strength and not something to be feared. By being vulnerable, we open ourselves up to growth, self-actualization, and greater health and wellness. Let’s use our vulnerability to empower ourselves and make us stronger!
If you missed this great chat. You can watch the replay here.
This dangerous ideology dissuades men from embodying the other facets of their identity. When expression of emotion is policed, the fluency with which men can communicate their issues, seek emotional safety, and find safe zones is sabotaged. As practitioners, we should strive to be active resources for BIPOC men seeking emotionally safe spaces to favor their mental wellness. The more willing we can provide safe, confidential, and non-judgmental spaces in the BIPOC community, the more we can chip away at the societal norms that rob BIPOC men of their humanity, sensitivities, and innate desires to be heard.